Wayne C. Allen

While cyber relationships are convenient, nothing beats face to face dialogue. We'll discuss both.

Knowing one's intent is key for letting go of game playing and getting on with the core of relating. Learn how to let go of hiding your intent, as you question your motivations deeply.

Lust - Caution - The Perils of Romance - Most people fall first into lust, which they convert into socially acceptable things like romance and move. This article explores this process of sanitizing lust, and suggests Zen alternatives

Getting over Yourself -- the focus has to be on you -- how you live, how you choose. Once you see your patterns, you can simply stop, breathe, and move down another path.

Clearing Relationship Gunk - we aren't taught how to let go. To observe. We're taught to blame.

Body-Mind - To quote from Dogen, "Body and Mind naturally drop off, and the original face appears."

The Blocks to True Forgiveness -- True Forgiveness is a self-responsible action aimed at you, and you alone. You forgive to set yourself free.

Big Mind - Watching the mind work is how we prepare to live in the moment. Here are some examples of simply watching.

The Blame Game -- blaming situations or others is a great way to live a small and meaningless life. Things change when we accept responsibility for our lives, and then do something different.

Letting go of techniques - it's easy to get caught in endless fixing. A bit of bodywork, a touch of meditation. And nothing "real" changes.

Letting Go of Self-Indulgence - self-indulgence is thinking that the world is there to make you happy.

Letting Go of Enchantment -- Enchantment is like a story-trance. We're projecting, telling stories, and lost in the story. Disenchantment lets us see and interact with "what is."

Letting go of Assumptions -- most never explore their baseline assumptions, and end up living on autopilot

The Mad Parts of Sane People - learning to embody ourselves - to visit the depths of ourselves, and then to incorporate and share what we find - is the ultimate mark of courage

The Dance of Mind and Body - The mind and body are one--indivisible. Both speak to us, and both convey great lessons we all benefit from learning

Get Over It -- There's reality and what you do with reality in your head. All emotion comes from you not accepting what is right in front of you, and working from there.

Non-Habitual Living and Being - The way we view our lives, and 'reality' is not true. In fact, it's simply an unconscious habit. Learn ways to recognize habitual thinking and behaving, and then, learn how to change it.

The joy of non-duality - we create internal representations of everything we interact with. It's all just a story. Joy is letting go of all of them.

Like Clouds Drifting By - The first idea: we know things by their opposite, The second idea: thoughts are not real -- they are like clouds drifting along.

Changing Channels on Your Thinking -- While certain aspects of our personality and behaviour are hard-wired in, what we choose to do with each situation is, fortunately, completely our choice.