It’s said that we teach what we want to learn and I’ve been teaching and learning about men’s anger and how it impacts our relationships for many years now. 2018 marks 50 years that I’ve been in the business of helping men (My wife thinks I should…

Male Attachment Disorder, Anger, and Relationship Stress

The Future of the U.S. and World Will Depend on Our Choices: Part 1
There will be a great deal of commentary about 2020, the election, and the aftermath. I would like to offer my perspective. For more than 50 years, I have been helping men live…

Trumpism or Partnerism, Strong or Good

Trumpism or Partnerism, Strongmen or Goodmen

Like millions of people throughout the U.S. and around the world, I watch in horror as the results of a Donald Trump Presidency play out for all to see. Headline stories in The Washington Post on, Jan. 7, 2021, grab our attention:
How pro-Trump…

Authoritarian-Minded males storm the Capitol: What the U.S. and the world needs to do now

Donald Trump’s presidency will not be over until January 20, 2021, and the U.S. And the world are still in danger from his madness.
Like millions of people throughout the U.S. and around the world, I watch in horror as the results of a Donald Trump…

Authoritarian-Minded Males Storm the Capitol: What the U.S. and the World Needs To Do Now

Like millions of people throughout the U.S. and around the world, I watch in horror as the results of a Donald Trump Presidency play out for all to see. Headline stories in The Washington Post on January 7, 2021, grab our attention:
How pro-Trump…

Authoritarian-Minded Males Storm The Capitol: What The U.S. and The World Needs to Do Now

I was five years old when my 45-year-old father took an overdose of sleeping pills. According to his journal, which I found many years later, he had become increasingly withdrawn and depressed because he couldn’t make a living to support his family.…

Who Stole the Masculine Soul?

Who Stole The Masculine Soul?

I was five years old when my father took an overdose of sleeping pills in an attempt to end his life. According to his journal, which I found many years later, he had become increasingly withdrawn and depressed because he couldn’t make a living to…

Who stole the masculine soul? Addressing the male loneliness epidemic

No one ever comes to me saying, “I feel loved and cared for. My relationship is passionate and exciting, and I can’t wait to be with my spouse. I want a divorce.”
I’ve been a marriage and family counselor for more than fifty years now. I hear from…

Divorce Is Not the Answer: Why Stage 3 Disillusionment Is the Key To Real Lasting Love

“I love you, but I’m not in love with you anymore.” I hear this over and over from couples who come to me for help because their relationship is about to go under. It is rare that they are both equally concerned. Usually, one person is desperately…

How To Save Your Midlife Marriage: Disillusionment Is Not the Problem, but the Doorway To Real Lasting Love

How to Save Your Midlife Marriage: Disillusionment is Not the Problem, But the Doorway to Real Lasting Love

In my book, The Enlightened Marriage: The 5 Transformative Stages of Relationship and Why the Best is Still to Come, I say, “Stage 3, Disillusionment, can either be the beginning of the end of your relationship or the entrée to real lasting love.” I…

Why So Many Midlife Couples Become Disillusioned With Marriage and How You Can Save Yours

Why So Many Midlife Couples Become Disillusioned with Marriage and How You Can Save Yours

I don’t think I have to convince you that male irritability, anger, and violence are huge problems in today’s world. My book, The Irritable Male Syndrome: Understanding and Managing the 4 Key Causes of Depression and Aggression, became an…

Loneliness: The hidden problem at the root of male irritability, anger, and violence

I’ve been a marriage and family counselor for more than fifty years now. I hear from men and women every day who are in pain and suffering because their relationship has gone downhill and is in danger of crashing. Though some relationships need to…

Divorce is Not the Answer: Why Stage 3 Disillusionment Is the Key to Real Lasting Love

The election is over. Donald Trump lost. Joe Biden won. Yet, Donald Trump is angry and has trouble admitting defeat. Even after he leaves office, Trumpism will be alive in America and throughout the world. Our country will remain in turmoil until we…

Trumpism, Trauma, and the Wounding and Healing of the Masculine Soul

My parent’s marriage began to unravel at midlife. After he turned forty, my father became increasingly depressed when he couldn’t make a living doing the work that he loved. He had a “nervous breakdown” and was committed to a mental hospital. My…